Jordan Peterson: Guys who are too nice? Good luck.
17 Mar Women say they want the nice guy. But I'm not so sure. I recently had the following IM conversation with my friend Jill: RICH ( AM): punks, and rock stars. JILL ( AM): pretty much. RICH ( AM): hence Dave and you will never be together. JILL ( AM): he's a good guy. 17 Sep Why You Should Never Trust Someone Who's Too Nice. By Dan Scotti You can sense everyone standing in your vicinity rolling their eyes, except one middle- aged man, who's inexplicably grinning from ear-to-ear. Not in a bad way, just because I didn't know if she was keeping it a stack with the boy. 1 day ago “How can a guy be too nice?” If most of your experiences with men can be described as a “terrible hook up I want to erase from my mind forever” or “toxic relationship that put me off dating for years,” you might think that there's no way a guy can be too nice. Unfortunately, such a thing is indeed possible.
Is it true that nice guys finish last?
After reading the followup, yeah this guy is not it for you. I value the objective and emotional truth so much in life that to dishonor the truth is just unforgivably annoying in the long run for me. For all anybody here knows, the problem is you and therapy is the right path.
He plays by the rules. There are a few problems society puts forward about men who are nice guys. He puts forward ideas that get shot down. He is seen to be his own worst enemy. I mean, yeah, he is. Or even boyfriend material. And quite often, this is the experience of both the men and the women involved in this discussion.
Some women find themselves having no attraction whatsoever to the nice guy, and the nice guy is frustrated because he thinks he would be good for her. Unfortunately, the courteousness, friendship, and love of men like this often does get abused and taken for granted.
These are all pretty decent points, you know? In other words, you make a good point. Since when is it more desirable that we have men in our lives talk us down, constantly disagree with anything we say, and always demand their way or the highway?
No one actually enjoys that happening? So why are we criticizing great qualities in the men in our lives like patience, perseverance, and above all, kindness in a cruel world?
Kindness is not a weakness. But by the same token, kindness is actually selflessness acted out.
I think that actually takes a lot of strength to be able to do, and I admire it because it demonstrates you are secure in who you are. Scripture gives several descriptions of what is desirable in a man, and what a man should desire to be.
Among other things, it encourages us to be generous, look after our families, live an upstanding life, work hard, fight for what we believe in, stand strong as men of faith, and strive for peace with all men.
I guess all of us are a little afraid that the people in our lives will take us for granted.
That we lay our lives down for their benefit? That we remain kind and courteous and respectful, regardless of how others treat us? I mean, sure, there is a line there. Even the ultimate link will pull back after continual, intentional, and destructive resistance.
Curious to hear what you think on the matter. Do you think nice guys finish last? Agree with something I said? Disagree with something I said?
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Definitely cut him lose. Confessions of an Average Guy. The End or is it? You really buried the lede there. I link to two other threads in my comment, and check those whole threads out, too, especially the one from the guy who likes "sassy ladies.
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