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My partner (of 8 years) also has lots of female friends and is friendly with several of his exes; likewise, I have lots of male friends and also am friendly with several of my exes. In fact, if he hadn't been friends with women -- or if he didn't trust my friendships with men -- we would have never gotten very far. 10 Jun However I now have many close female friends who I find invaluable. There is a different dynamic with a female friend than a male friend. We talk about different things and I find female friends to be far more interested in a broader range of subjects than simply who scored the first goal last night. I can ring. 13 Sep Okay, so it's not literally bad for your health like that. But it is indeed a stressful endeavor to take on when you decide to date a man who has not just a few female friends, but many. Been there, done that, and I wouldn't recommend it. But hey, there are some fantastic guys out there who have female.
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Sign in to join this conversation New here? My boyfriend has a lot of female friends. How to deal with this? Are you at university? Answer these quick questions and feature in TSR's next article! Start new discussion Reply. My boyfriend is very confident, charming and easy to talk to. He's also not super laddy and can relate to girls quite easily as he has 2 sisters.
Obviously this is wonderful for me but it also means he has A LOT of female friends. He is a popular guy and has a good click at this page of male friends but still around Some of these female friends he is very close to and they chat regularly with lots of kisses etc.
I have never asked about his history with any of them because I don't want to seem jealous. I myself have a few male friends so it's not that I necessarily think there's anything wrong with friends of the opposite sex. But the way I treat them is very different. I do not text them regularly or fuss over them.
Tbh, it kind of makes me see him in a different light now I know how many girls he's friends with. Also to mention a lot of these girls are very pretty so I guess it makes me feel a bit insecure sometimes.
I have identified with a few things here! May not apply if he's mooning after one that got away, but it doesn't sound like that's the case. Follow 11
Is this something I'm just going to have to accept? Or is there anything I can say or do to make him stop being so friendly with girls. To the point where the way he treats me isn't really that different to how he treats his female friends. Only difference is we kiss etc. Follow 2 Have you been cheated on in the past? I can see where you're coming from, I wouldn't want my boyfriend being cuddly close to other women, however by the sounds of it they are only friends.
There isn't any weird or secretive behaviour going on with any of them. It sounds like you don't trust him to not cheat on you when he is with his friends. That's something to think about. Follow 3 There's not really anything healthy you can do. You may find a few of them drift away over time once he's in a relationship and has a little less time and they realise it won't happen.
I wouldn't think anything of it unless you really have reason to be suspicious. Follow 4 Original post by Anonymous My boyfriend is very confident, charming and easy to talk to.
Follow 5 Follow 6 Follow 7 Talk to him rather than complaining on a student forum. Posted on the TSR App. Download from Apple or Google Play.
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Follow 9 Follow 10 Get yourself a load of male friends. Follow 11 Get yourself a lot of boyfriends. Follow 12 It doesn't sound like you have any good grounds to worry.
I think it's actually a pretty good trait for guys to have a decent amount of female friends; it means that they don't subscribe to the toxic and prevalent idea that men and women can't ever be friends because men just want to bone.
It means they see women as sentient and complex human beings, not just sex objects - the fact that you say he's 'not super laddy' would seem to support this interpretation. However, this insidious view - that men only ever want sex from women, and therefore if they're friends with them, it's just a means to an end - is really pervasive in our culture see 'friendzone', for example.
It's based on a load of unhelpful, essentialist gender stereotypes, and in short, it's bulls4hit. I can understand why you feel insecure though, because this interpretation fits very well with our received ideas about men and women. Yes, loads and loads of men are awful, and some of them exploit female friendships in order to get into their pants.
However, this isn't something that's hard-wired into the male lizard brain though. Some men - straight men - genuinely do get on better and relate better to women, and have long-term, close, intimate friendships with them.
In the absence of any indication that something untoward is going on, this sounds like a likely explanation. If you have a boyfriend who's able to have healthy, non-sexual, equitable friendships with women, that's A Good Thing, in my opinion.
Maybe he is a philanderer and a liar and he's shagging 5 of his female friends at once.
What Makes an Intimate Relationship Intimate? Furthermore, should something of that nature happen, you will very likely receive no help or significantly less help from available support groups. Because I deserve to be with someone who trusts me, and I deserve to be with someone who respects my privacy, and I deserve to be with someone who wants me to have friendships that make me happy. LOTS of people are friends with exes. Now, though, the question of sexual tension is irrelevant, because the idea of Something Happening is off the table.
This is something you need to talk about together though; you need to bring up your insecurities with him, because at this point, that's all they are - your own insecurities. It's really not a good look when people try and police their partners' relationships with friends. Follow 13 Follow 14 They're just friends of his of the opposite sex. Follow 15 Deal with it by dating me instead. You wouldn't have to worry about me ever having any friends, period.
Jibola Follow 6 followers 16 badges Send a private message to Jibola Follow 16 Original post by worldender This web page doesn't sound like you have Hookup A Man With Lots Of Female Friends good grounds to worry. Randz18 Follow 0 followers 11 badges Send a private message to Randz Follow 17 Follow 19 Original post by awkwardshortguy 1: Original post by happysmile literally what i was thinking lol.
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